I Hate Drama

But it's part of our lives, isn't it?  Wherever there are people gathered, drama must follow.

I'm dealing with some difficult issues right now with Large.  It's hard enough being a 15 year-old boy without the drama of having a manipulative mother. 

Now imagine if you will how you would feel if you were spending the summer with your dad like you do every year and your mom called and told you she'd moved. Your stuff was all packed, and you'll be going to a different school (actually a ghetto school) when you return.  You'll never see your friends again - kids you've known for ten years.  Oh, and the kicker?  It's your fault that she moved because she doesn't like your activities or your friends.  So, she moved as punishment.

Fun, huh?

Nothing like a little manipulation to make your summer vacation as exciting as possible.

 - rick, angry.

Comments

[SillyNut]

Borderline personality disorder? Because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and say that they can't seriously be THAT mean and something has to be causing it. I mean, seriously, a mother can't be that bitchy on her own, can she?

Why doesn't Large stay with you? He's old enough a judge would let him decide....

[Cele]

Mi God isn't he old enough to choose with whom he wants to live yet?

[jane]

Ugh, that is awful!

[wry]

Poor Large! I'm so sorry. That sounds like a nightmare, particularly at age 15. :-(

[Success Warrior]

The sooner he breaks from her the better but he needs to be prepared for more mind games. Feigned illness or suicide threats with the message that "you're killing your mom" by not coming back. "How can you do this to me?"

[Cherise]

Poor Large. He's a good kid and I know he loves his mother, but the games she plays are too much for anyone to deal with, let alone a teenage boy. It's so unfair. I wish she'd wake up and see the only thing she is doing is hurting Large for nothing. Sad.

[a rose is a rose]

i'm so very sorry for everyone involved even mom. i don't know her i never met her but it is obvious to me she cannot be in the same plane everyone else is. i'm trying to watch my words here because i believe you said large reads this and i don't want to use words to hurt further. sounds to me like she is frightened and feeling cornered. why? i have no idea. as i said, the thought patterns exhibited are not the same ones MOST people have.
again, i'm sorry for the hurt and pain

[CPH Jones]

Wow. Your ex sounds just like my mom - two nuts short of a can of Planter's. What kind of an adult would up, move, and blame it all on a kid? How imbalanced is that? If Large wasn't acting out before, he's sure as hell going to start now. Your ex seems devoted to fulfilling her own prophecy. What's your action plan?

[CV Rick]

Right now it's up to Large what happens next. He's free to stay here and I'm willing to take up the gauntlet and go back to court over it, but it has to be his decision.

My plan is to be supportive and let him know that our relationship remains solid and unchanging regardless his choice. If he chooses to go back to Oklahoma I'm willing to drop everything in a moment and go get him should he need that.

[CV Rick]

Yes, that's what she did. Exactly.

[bex]

hard to know what's going on in that woman's head...

I'd guess she has control issues because of a fear of abandonment. Explains a lot of her behavior that you told us about thus far. Some people like that just never seemed to get the memo that if you want people to want to be around you, you should start of by being a nice person...

If I were Large, I'd remind her that he's going away to college in 2 years, and he would really like the last few years in his mother's home to be happy ones. He'd be more willing to call and and visit more often, if his mother made him feel good about himself when he was around her.

She gets to choose between being pleasant, or emotional blackmail. He gets to choose when he permanently moves out of his mother's home. Now, 2 years, or never.